What Do You Do When You Are Immobilized….

I deal with being overwhelmed in the most ass-backwards way. I become immobilized. What do you do when you are immobilized?

That means that instead of folding laundry, cleaning the bathroom, writing a blog post, putting away the winter clothes or making rice krispie cake, I do nothing. 

Sometimes I snuggle up on the couch and watch Scandal.

Sometimes I open the cupboard and binge eat. 

Sometimes I cry. 

I remember this happening a bit when I was a kid. But, like me, it was small.  I never could really label it – I just knew that I didn’t feel quite right.

Now that I’m older. I can most definitely identify the feeling of being paralyzed by everything that piles up, and I hate it. It is one of the few qualities I don’t like about myself.  Mostly because I like to be able to make sense of my world. This does not make sense to me.  Being so overwhelmed that I end up doing nothing sort of pisses me off.  

I feel lucky that I can identify it, deal with it and move on.  It usually take a day or two and then I get my shit together.  But what frightens me is the idea of a day where I won’t be able to move on.  Where I get so immobilized that I have to admit that I am quite possibly depressed. 

Doing these steps have helped me. In fact, I think this list has saved my life.

What about you?

Do you carry something that you don’t like about yourself?

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22 thoughts on “What Do You Do When You Are Immobilized….

  1. Every day, Kyla. Every day. Last year, after learning my needed knee surgery was going to be, at the very least, we’ll over a year, I sank into a terrible depression. Due to the pain in my knees and back, I was no longer able to do the things around the house that ì wanted to do. I had just retired the year before, my hubby and I had taken on raising our then 8-year-old grandaughter, and my house was a mess. I thought my hubby and I were messy, but this beautiful little girl put us both to shame. As I became less and less able to physically unable to do things, and my hubby had to take on more and more, along with running the video store we own, I became more and more depressed to the point of feeling they would all be better off without me. In the June of last year, I finally got into see a psychiatrist, who changed my meds and sent me to a counselor, who saw (and still sees) me every 2-3 weeks. The counselor encouraged me to join a mindfulness group and I have done two 10-week sessions with that. So, needless to say, in the last year I have come a very long way and am no longer suicidal. I still suffer from depression, but it is much more handle-able now. But I have spent so much time in bed and wrapped up inside my head, and am still severely limited physically, that every time I try to look at doing something that I can do…..I become overwhelmed and, as you said, immobilized and I crawl back onto my bed and do nothing. Sorry for the long tale, but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in your feelings.

    1. I really appreciate you being so open and sharing here. I am so glad to know that you are in a better place, I think the first step is being aware, don’t you. Then reaching out and getting the help.

    2. I spend most days sittting on one corner of my bed. I do things from here. I have a lovely house, a beautiful garden, three lovely dogs, a cat, and I’m immobilised. And have been for years. I get out and do things, but always come back to this one spot.
      I have a lot of physical and emotional pain and this impacts greatly, so, I have no answers to immobilisation.

  2. I do the exact same thing you do when there are a million things to do – nothing. I procrastinate until I’m in such a frenzy and then at some point I figure out a plan and just start knocking jobs off the list. It is very annoying isn’t it? Luckily, I’m really efficient and once I get back in motion I can do things quickly and with a pretty high level of quality. I like to blame this whole scenario on having a creative mind. I’m sure that has something to do with it.

      1. i have been feeling immobilized for the last 2 month since my son started with holding my 4yr old grand daughter from me i feel like i can’t move my heart is breaking any suggestion to shake this feeling being a clean person my house is going to the dogs

    1. I suffer from severe social anxiety but you would never guess that Im always on and I talk to anyone and everyone . But sometimes its all too much and I cant leave the house without running into so many people and I need to be on and Im just too stressed or emotional ….so I stay inside I dont respond to texts, I dont Blog I dont post…If the boys are home from school Im good with keeping busy but if its nap time ansd just my 8 month old I hide under the covers…I dont want to see or talk to anyone outside of my circle my home …..ive always been this way its hard when my phone is blowing up and I cant respond to anything or anyone

  3. I’m a great list-maker! Sometimes the to-do list is too long, of course. I read a book called Managing Your Time and Life, and the author recommends the ‘swiss cheese’ approach – start anywhere, on anything. Then alternate something more difficult with something easier. Of course, urgent has to float to the top of the list. I don’t usually feel immobilized, but can be depressed. Immobility could be depression, feelings of being overwhelmed, or even burnout. I would consult a health professional/counsellor to help with any of these symptoms – because they are only symptoms – of an underlying concern. I can understand curling up on the couch, but it may just delay the actual dealing with the issue – which in itself could increase the anxiety and feelings of desperation….

  4. My husband suffers from anxiety depression and is the same way. With me, I work myself into a frenzy then have to admit I cannot do it all . Like just before my knee surgery . Trying to get all my customers happy , husband happy, house clean and of course my own garden done I finally ended saying – ah screw it ! Can’t do it . Then become more calm and just don’t care . Marc becomes so overwhelmed with all that needs to be done , nothing gets done . The thing ISO think us that we recognize these truths and do t beat ourselves up about it .

  5. I just had this happen to me for the first time this last week. I have so much to do, I wish I could even NAP, but I just sit and watch Gilmore Girls. The laundry, food, everything else is in survival mode. BLEH I hate it. I am just starting to get out of it, but glad to know I am not alone.

  6. OMG – we could be twins; except I am much older and much fatter. Avoidance is so easy for me. Then when things pile up I am immobilized. Seriously. So last weekend, with four days off, I decided I had enough of sitting around feeling sorry for myself. It wasn’t getting me more of what I wanted. So I set the timer (true story). I would pick a pile, or a room, or a counter and I had 1 hour to work. Then I would reward myself with setting the timer again and having an hour to read or play my stupid computer game. At the end of the day my reward, if I completed my goal was a rum and coke in the hot tub. I apparently respond to bribery – even if I am the one with the bribe. I finished all but two of the tasks I laid out for myself and seriously feel somewhat better. Not a lot better – but now if I am going to wallow at least I don’t have to look at piles of shit hanging around me.

  7. Yup. Same thing. Happened too much this winter – but it does seem to be more of a fall/winter thing for me. And I don’t know why. I can’t write. I can’t pick up the phone and check in with friends. I can’t do fun crafts with the kids. I. Just. Can’t. There’s a nagging feeling that I’m failing at something, and I sit, doing nothing, until I actually DO fail at something. I don’t know what it’s about, or why it’s there. But I’m glad that there are other weirdies out there who know what it feels like (not that I’m glad that other people have to deal with it…)

  8. I am experiencing this in greater and greater degrees. It is ridiculous. Is it depression? Yes. Anxiety? Yes. Habitual? Yes. Sometimes I feel better when I finally do one or two small things but so much to even make a dent. Struggle with when the whole day stretches out before me and when I only have a small block of time. I always think I’d be better with the other. I’ve done- doing therapy. I have a mindfulness app. Sometimes I think it’s indecisiveness, sometimes I think it’s so hard to make a dent without having me or my husband undue any progress. Sometimes I feel if I had someone to check in with before starting a task or a time period dedicated to a task, and then someone to check in with at the end. Why do I need that? Where would I get that? I

  9. How’s it going now Kyla? I struggle with this too. My sister and I talk about how this is our “default mode”. For us, it may be left over from growing up in an alcoholic family. And I tend to over-think things. You are right that yoga and walking help. I’d love to hear how you are doing now, and any suggestions that have helped you.

    1. I work out for my brain. I have too. It is the only thing that keeps me going. I also write down a small task to complete each day. Sometimes it is just doing the dishes or sweeping the floor. But writing it down and crossing if off works wonder for my brain.

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