What Is Okay To One Parent Is Not Always Okay To Another….

I am always shocked by what parents deem to be okay.

I have a friend with an eight year old son. She always supervises him while he is in their unfenced front yard.    In fact, she won’t even leave him in their front yard alone, not even for a second. Not even to run to the wash room which is about ten feet from the front door. Her son would be alone for a total of two minutes.

To me, not a big deal, its only two minutes.

To her, that is a two minute lead for his abductor.

She thinks I am totally nuts that I would leave my child unsupervised and I think she is being a little bit excessive.

I also know people who drug their kids when travelling. To me, that is not okay.  I think that is awful.  But, did I buy some Childrens Gravol in liquid and tab form for our last holiday?

You bet I did.

Did I use it?  No.

But would I? I guess that depends on the situation.

If Whirlwind and Baby Bot went completely bizerk on the plane. And people were yelling, ” Get those mo-fo babies off this plane”! I would have drugged them faster than the vodka I had just downed.

For me, its also not okay to smoke while watching your kids play at the park.  I think its gross for my children to have to breathe that in. I think its gross that I have to breathe that in.  I think as parents, we have to be role models for children. All children.

I don’t smoke.  So, I am not sure what I would do in that situation. I don’t have an addiction.

Except an unhealthy one with food.

That giant bag of smoky bacon chips really did me in last night.

And to some parents, that is not okay. In fact I met a guy the other day who pretty much yelled at me for being overweight and putting strain on our health system and government.  Really? I weigh 200 pounds. Big Friggn’ Deal.  I then told him to go back to “Alberta”.


But to him being overweight is “not okay”.

To me, he is a loser.

I also know someone who breast feeds her three year old.  I’m not in the situation.  I don’t have a three year old that wants to breast feed, so I am not sure what I would do or if that would be okay with me. I can tell you one thing, if I was breastfeeding my three year old it would be done in my home. Sadly, in shame.

But, she is the parent and she does as she sees fit with her family.

Of course there are situations where the parent is not even close to being right. Obviously. Just read half of these cases on CNN.  They are disgusting. Who let’s these people be parents? Let’s spend more time judging them and not each other.

So please don’t judge me when I tell you this….

I have unbuckled my baby in a moving vehicle to breastfeed while travelling 110 km’s an hour.  But, I told my husband not to get in an accident. So, I think we were okay.

Anyone else want to admit anything?

16 thoughts on “What Is Okay To One Parent Is Not Always Okay To Another….

  1. As long as you told him to not get in an accident, you’re good.

    And I want to punch that guy in the head that called you overweight. I had to lose 20 pounds in the last couple of months to fit into a bridesmaid dress I ordered too small. My husband keeps looking at me quite sad.

    “Where did your boobies go?”

    They will be reappearing shortly. Once I burn this bridesmaid dress that is. (;

  2. With number 3 we travelled with an infant on my lap in the front seat for 3 months. As soon as he could stick his head up it had to stop. It saved at least 12 hours of sanity for me.

    I told my husband the same. 😉

  3. Someone told you that you were over weight? Sorry, I can’t get past that. I think that if you didn’t smack this person then you deserve a medal. Wild that, just wild.

  4. That psychopath that told you you were overweight will be stressing the penitentiary system before long. Tell him that, next time you see him. I liked that you told him to go back to Alberta, though!!!

    I was in the Calgary airport about a year ago and the woman sitting across from me was breastfeeding her child who was probably six years old!! Gross. On so many levels. And I don’t think it was doing the kid any favours. I think the mother liked the shock factor of whipping her breast out. Maybe she’ll be taxing the psychiatric health care system one of these days;)

  5. I am overweight and no one has ever said anything to me about it. I thinks it’s because I always have a snarl on my face and maybe people will think I eat people who judge my weight.


    I also give my children gravol when I travel. And I do it for my sanity, not for their carsick tummies. It’s a trick I learned from my mom who also cared about her sanity.

    Judge away.

    As for breastfeeding………

    I got nothin’.

  6. We don’t want him in Alberta, either.

    I failed the test that allows us to have children, so I don’t think I’m allowed to weigh in on any of the other stuff.

  7. Hmmm…. Here is my list of reasons why I am a really imperfect mom…

    Once, I made my kids KD for dinner and gave them a Kit Kat for dessert.

    On one occasion, I forgot to put the boys’ car seats back in the car after they’ve been at dads for a few days. Their daycare is only four blocks away. It’s practically all school zone home. Yea, ok, it was on more than one occasion.

    So remember when I said I gave them KD and Kit Kat for dinner? There was no KD.

  8. On numerous occasions I have fed my children ice cream for supper following a lunch of either mr noodles or crackers. Lol
    My children have been running wild through our neighbourhood since they were four and tow. And my youngest who is now 2.5 has already been to four funerals. My oldest is going to be 10 soon and has been to thirteen funerals. A lot of people don’t believe kids should go to a funeral but I believe that if they are old enough to love the person they are old enough to say goodbye to them.

  9. .I love to take photos. But what is not okay is that I have often got the “ugly pretty” photo. You know the one where you have this idea of what you wanted and your kids just want to play at the park or run wild in the field. BUT the light is perfect and you need it NOW so you snap and argue and loose your mind a bit. You have the shot…. now they are hurt and you are feeling terrible. Had I just waited….been patient and loving. It prolly would have happened or perhaps something better.
    dessert for dinner – check.
    Driven without the car seat a few blocks- check
    forgot to clip the baby buckles in the bucket seat- check
    Im horrible. Who is in charge of me….crap.

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