Nudity Rules…

When is it no longer “okay” for your kids to see you naked?

Somewhere there is that magic moment when things just “change”.
I remember being about 10 years old when I started to want privacy from my parents. You know, changing in the hotel bathroom on family vacations and in the stalls at the beach or trying to put a lock on my bedroom door.
Oddly enough, my parents have not yet reached the place where they feel they need to clothe themselves around me. They are yet to hold back on the nudity.
If you are a guest at my parents home, there is a very strong chance that you are going to walk in on my father doing a naked headstand.  Seeing my 74 year old father naked is probably not something you want to see any ways. But imagine upside down?
Don’t get me wrong, they are not nudists by any means.  
They are just awesome.
Damn awesome.
Best people on this damn awesome planet.
Any who….
I bring this up for a reason. Whirlwind has been coming into our room in the middle of the night and finding me half dressed. She has started asking me, “Where are your pajama’s Mommy?”  And I tell her its because “I am hot”. Which is the truth. Usually she doesn’t care about me being naked.  It’s never been much of an issue.
But, not for Zed, she is a little bit more curious.
So, last night we had a neighbour stop by to help me with some blogger type things and I casually took it as an opportunity to ask him about their “nudity rules” with their girls. 
“Oh God.”  He sighed. ” Now when my daughter showers with me I wear swim trunks.”
Which made me howl.  
It seemed a little bit excessive.
But, also bloody fantastic.
I like to picture their entire family showering together wearing scuba gear.
So, back to my question. When is it no longer “okay” for your kids to see you naked?

10 thoughts on “Nudity Rules…

  1. My son is nine and he still walks in the bathroom unannounced when I am about to take a shower or something and he just rolls his eyes and says “mom” so I guess he is not upset by it but if he is then he needs to learn to freaking knock. So, good question… I need the answer myself.

  2. My boys are only three and five, so nudity in bathrooms or bedrooms isn’t a big deal yet. We’ve talked about the differences between girls and boys, but they still try to reassure me not to worry, my penis will probably grow soon. I’ve been trying to let them know that they have to keep their clothes on when we have friends over, or when we’re on the main level, or out in public. That said, while my 5 year old is fully comfortable opening the door buck naked (our poor UPS guy!), he now likes his bedroom door closed when he puts on his pajamas at night.

  3. Hallie is 21 months and CP is 4. Just recently he has wanted to take showers with me which I only allow once in a while. He stands there, inquisitive and talkative. Not much washing is going on.
    Also, he is the family streaker. I’m thinking scuba gear in about a year or so.

  4. I may be the odd one out here, but my boys are 8 and 10 and we are all still comfortable being naked around each other. For practical purposes (mainly time issues) we still shower together on occasion. Our shower has two heads so two people can shower together while the other child showers in the other bathroom. I had this question too and my sister just said you will just know when it is time. I still don’t know if its right, but it works for us and they have never stared too long or said things I considered inappropriate. I’m looking forward to reading the replies to this!

  5. I have 3 boys. My 7 is starting to “get” the whole privacy thing. Mostly because I know he’s been playing with himself, which is a whole ‘nother post 😉
    My 5 and 2? They will happily strip down to skin in 0.02 seconds for any reason they deem worthy. Unfortunately, this has led to quite a bit of penis-yanking lately, which I need to somehow put a stop to.

    I still can’t visit the bathroom alone behind a locked door without a kid pushing papers/toys/food/keys/etc. under the door, banging on the door with a frozen chicken breast asking for dinner/screaming like a fucking banshee on crack walking over hot coals/opening the front door to announce to the neihborhood that mom is taking a dump and it smells like last night’s dinner. Sigh.

    Showers? Well, let’s just say I feel like a goldfish must, what with all the glass-tapping and noses pressed to the glass.

  6. I figure it took me 30+ years to love my bod, therefore I am not ashamed to be naked. I want my son (wee man) to feel as comfortable in his own skin without taking most of his adult life to do so. If he ever openly states he is uncomfortable then I will cover up, but until then, its my house, I pay the bills, if nudity bothers you, I can call a cab for you. LOL My hubby thinks it isn’t a party until someone is naked so everyday is party day at our place!
    Seriously, I grew up in a house where nudity wasn’t anything to be ashamed/embarrassed of and I hope to raise my kids feeling the same way. As long as kids know there is a time and a place for it, then nudey-booty is fine by me!

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